Wedding Plans Begin
My partner and I got in engaged in December 2016, and we started researching venues pretty much straight away. Our thinking was that the venue we chose would really give us an idea of the type of day we wanted. From a practical point of view, we also wanted to get an idea of cost, so we knew how long we needed to give ourselves to save!
Looking at websites, we very quickly decided that we wanted a relaxed, country barn type of wedding, rather than a house or hotel. We arranged to visit the two venues at the top of our list over one weekend, and from here we are probably unusual, in that we absolutely fell in love with the first venue we saw! We spent the following week looking at other websites, thinking we really should visit a few more places, but this felt like it would be a huge waste of time – we had made up our minds!
When we came away from our visit to Bedinghams Farm we were buzzing! We were coming up with ideas for the day, and B said that he could really see us and our friends and family there, which was lovely to hear. We did not get this excited about the venue we saw the next day, and although we haven’t seen lots of other places to compare it to, we are trusting this initial feeling of happiness and excitement.
Next came the hard bit – how long did we need to give ourselves to save, and when could we realistically afford to get married. We had made sure that we picked a venue that would be affordable for us, but now we needed to do some rough costs of everything else. We worked out that we would need roughly two years to save, and from here we were able to pick a date and book our venue!
Wedding Fairs and Magazines
Getting married in 2019 means we now have lots of time to plan and come up with ideas. In February we visited Anstey Hall Wedding Fair, which gave us the chance to talk to lots of suppliers – photographers, caterers, cake makers, and even magicians!
I don’t think of myself as a particularly girly girl, but even I would not turn down an opportunity to drink and look at wedding magazines with one of my best friends. After getting over the initial shock of the cost of these magazines, I then had lots of fun looking at dresses and mainly getting an idea of what I would not be wearing on my wedding day!
We had been told that your photographer is the next big booking, after your venue. We chatted to several photographers at the wedding fair, and there was one that we both really liked. We’d also looked at quite a few photographers’ websites and one was offering a very similar package and price to the one that we met at the wedding fair. So B and I decided to arrange meetings with our top two photographers, so we could chat to them properly.
The first one we met was nice and professional, and the package he offered looked great. However, as soon as we started chatting to the second photographer, who we met a couple of weeks later, we knew that he was our man! We met in a relaxed pub and for the next two and half hours we chatted about photography and weddings (obviously), but also everything from music to cats! We just clicked with him, and instantly felt at ease - we wanted this guy at our wedding as a guest, and the fact that he would be taking the photographs was a bonus!
Because of this experience, I would really recommend meeting people in person - you learn so much from just going for a drink and seeing who you click with. After these meetings, I am positive that the photographer we have booked will get the best out of us, and I am sure he will take wonderful photos of our big day.
Ideas and Things to Do Next
Everything has settled down a bit now, but we are beginning to contact celebrants and DJs, research nearby accommodation, and think about our guest list. We are in the fortunate position of having plenty of planning time, but we will certainly be making bookings if we meet people we really like and know will be perfect for our wedding. Like with our venue and photographer, we want to find things that make us buzz with excitement!
We are beginning to have ideas based on our hobbies and interests, and we are writing down anything we think of. B has a wonderful idea for our wedding favours, I am starting to think about fun things for the tables, and between the two of us we are coming up with ideas for entertainment and decoration.
It is a bit overwhelming when there is so much you can do for a wedding these days. However, B and I know everything we do should excite us, and be about us. We are enjoying thinking about personal touches and planning a happy, special day with all of our friends and family.